edition 2002
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Preface
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Part One: Love
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Lovey-Dovey
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Real and Unreal--The First Step
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The Virtues of Selfishness
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| 4
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Attached to Nothing
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Questions:
- Will you please speak about the difference between
a healthy love of oneself and egoistic pride?
- Why is love so painful?
- How is it that the inscription on the Greek temple of Delphi
says "Know Thyself" and not "Love Thyself"?
- How can I love better?
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Part Two: From Relationship to Relating
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| 5
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The Honeymoon that Never Ends
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From Lust to Love to Loving
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Let There Be Spaces...
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The Koan of Relationship
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Questions:
- How can I know that a woman has fallen in love in reality,
and not playing games?
- If the jealousies, the possessiveness, the attachment,
the needs and expectations and desires and illusions drop,
will anything be left of my love?
- What is the difference between liking and loving,
to like and to love? And also, what is the difference
between ordinary love and spiritual love?
- There are many people I love but I don't feel committed to.
How can I predict if I love them tomorrow?
- Even if sometimes lovelike feelings arise in my heart,
immediately I start feeling this is not love,
it is my hidden cravings for sex and all that.
- In the East, it has been stressed that one should stay
with a person, one person, in a love relationship.
In the West, now people float from one relationship
to another. Which are you in favor of?
- Lately, I have begun to realize how even my lover is a stranger to me.
Still, there is and intense longing
to overcome the separation between us.
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Part Three: Freedom
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Tabula Rasa
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The Fundamental Slavery
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Beware of the Popes
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Is There Life After Sex?
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It Takes a Village...
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Questions:
- You said tha love can make you free. But ordinarily we see
that love becomes attachment, and instead of freeing us
it makes us more bound. So tell us something
about attachment and freedom.
- My boyfriend feels less and less like making love,
and this makes me upset and frustrated, even to the point
where I act aggresive toward him. What can I do?
- My sex life has become very quiet lately--not that
I don't want sex or that I am not courageous enough
to approach women, but it just doesn't happen.
What am I doing wrong?
- How can I know if detachment or indifference is growing within?
- In your wision of a model society, would there be one large commune
or a series of communes? What would be their relationship to one another?
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Part Four: Aloneness
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Aloneness Is Your Nature
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Strangers to Ourselves
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Solitary and Elect
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The Lion and the Sheep
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Questions:
- Never belonged, never been on the "inside," never felt "at one" with another.
Why such a loner all my life?
- Why does my sadness feel more real than my happiness?
I want so much to be real and authentic, not to wear any masks,
but this seems to mean so much rejection by others.
Is it possible to be so alon?
- As I move deeper into meditation and looking into who
I really am, I am having trouble maintaining any relationship.
Is this something to be expected, or have I gone wrong somewhere?
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Caveat: Two Women and a Monk
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Epilogue: Embracing the Paradox
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